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note to self: i’ll be there for you, always

written june 6, 2021. Photo by Kristine Cinate on Unsplash I have always looked for myself in other people. I think the idea was that they would somehow hold the pieces of me that I felt were missing. That maybe, if I wrapped my identity up in theirs enough, we would somehow make a whole person. It's not healthy to live like this, but I did it anyway — burning through relationships and searching for something I couldn't quite name. It was never enough, not to be myself, but it was never enough to latch my identity to other people, either. I got close, several times — I thought I had reached the pinnacle of self discovery. I thought I had completed myself. But in the end, relying on other people to help build yourself is never a viable way to do things. It's only recently that I've started to become comfortable with the idea of being enough, as I am, on my own. Several years ago, in this same position, I would have searched for another person to attach my identity onto,

Five Reasons Why I Love NaNoWriMo

NaNoWriMo. It stands for National Novel Writing Month. The idea is simple: write a novel in 30 days. Doing it, however, is another matter entirely.

Yet in spite of the challenge, I enjoy it, and here are five reasons why.

  1. Word wars. Seriously, is there anything greater? The concept is that you'll be forced to battle against a friend (or two... or three) to see who can write the most words in a set amount of time. And let me tell ya - you will be compelled to just write. I don't think there's anything more crazy. Or more fun.
  2. Writing. Well, NaNoWriMo is about writing, and guess what? By the time November is over, you will have written a novel. And that's a good thing.
  3. Friendship. There's something about writing a novel in 30 days that encourages camaraderie. Or insanity. Or both.
  4. Insanity. That seems like a good one to mention. Take it from the girl who wrote 25k in 5 days - it's insane. But it's also possible. And by the time you're done writing, you will feel accomplished. Be amazed at what you've done... and try not to think about how bad your novel actually is.
  5. Skills. Yes, NaNo is fun, but it also teaches you something. It teaches you how to finish what you start. It teaches you how to let go and just write. Most of all, it teaches you how fun writing can be... and how vital sleep really is.

Yes, NaNo is hard, and yes, you will write absolute rubbish. But that's the point of it. You can't be a writer unless you write.

So write.

And make us all a pot of coffee while you're at it.


  1. Your sentiments are duly noted, and I concur.

    (In other words, I understand exactly what you mean, and I agree. :P)

  2. Ok, this got me a little more excited about the upcoming event. Now I just need a plot...

  3. ^ You and me both... :-/ That's one thing I currently DON'T like about NaNo: my lack of a plot! :P

  4. #4 and #5. So very true. I didn't do Word Wars last year, but I did stumble across Write or Die, which I didn't use for NaNo, but makes for good writing just to get started on things.

    I'm on the site, but unable to send requests yet. I'll send one as soon as it'll let me though.

    And thanks for stopping by and following!

    ~ Chy

  5. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes and YES. (extra emphasis on the coffee)

    :D :D :D

  6. oh yes...your design is beautiful!!!

  7. Thank you SO much for your fabulously sweet comments you've been leaving on my blog lately! YOU are such an encouragement to me♥


    and yes, when i get dreadlocks i'll post photos ;D


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