note to self: i’ll be there for you, always
written june 6, 2021. Photo by Kristine Cinate on Unsplash I have always looked for myself in other people. I think the idea was that they would somehow hold the pieces of me that I felt were missing. That maybe, if I wrapped my identity up in theirs enough, we would somehow make a whole person. It's not healthy to live like this, but I did it anyway — burning through relationships and searching for something I couldn't quite name. It was never enough, not to be myself, but it was never enough to latch my identity to other people, either. I got close, several times — I thought I had reached the pinnacle of self discovery. I thought I had completed myself. But in the end, relying on other people to help build yourself is never a viable way to do things. It's only recently that I've started to become comfortable with the idea of being enough, as I am, on my own. Several years ago, in this same position, I would have searched for another person to attach my identity onto,
Hey, if you ever need someone to guest the BP for a month or two, Ashley Tahg (AKA, Me) is interested.
ReplyDeleteHey Ashley! Thanks so much for your offer! I'm not sure if we'll need a guest poster in the near future. I'll have to talk to Georgie about that. However, if we do, I'll be sure to keep you in mind!
DeleteSweetness! My revision will now not suffer too much as I struggle to do a fun blog post for everyone, lol!
ReplyDeleteLooking forward to filling in these questions :)
Okay, if you're running out of ideas on questions maybe I can help think up some! Would you just like to post my submissions in the comments? :)
ReplyDeleteSure, we'd love it if you'd submit questions! You can either leave them in the comments section, or send me an email: mountainfireflower [at] gmail [dot] com. :) Can't wait to see what you come up with!
DeleteIt's okay if I wait till Wedensday right? And if I did March's questions (In April) should I go back and add a link to March's Beautiful People?
ReplyDelete(Don't mind me I'm just the curious Late commer)
:} Cathryn
Yup! It's totally fine if you wait till Wednesday. The BP posts last for 30 days (we generally try to post it the 20th of each month).
DeleteActually, the linkies automatically close once 30 days has elapsed, but you can always add it to the current linky, as I see you have done! My apologies for not responding sooner. :)
Sky, I was wondering if it would be okay for me to do a mix-up of the previous Beautiful People questions with this one, since I've been late to post and link your previous one on my blog, but have been working slowly on it ;p. I'd like to do this one, but I feel the previous one just would work so much better with the characters I'd like to do for an interview, seeing they are aristocratic Romans from long ago and wouldn't naturally cook or do household chores!! So would it be okay if I did the interview for the previous Beautiful People and link it here?
ReplyDelete(I might still sometime do another Beautiful People post, using a slave :D... )
Blessings,
~Joy @ joy-live4jesus.blogspot.com
Yes, Joy, that's totally fine! :D I'm sorry I didn't respond sooner, it's been a crazy week.
DeleteOoh, a slave. Sounds like an extremely fascinating character. :D I have yet to write a slave, though I'm sure I shall eventually. I can't wait to hear more about yours!
Enjoyed the questions this round. I'm finding the BP posts extremely helpful in planning Camp NaNo this year. Hopefully, this is a good sign for this difficult novel-to-be. :)
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you've found them helpful! So've I. I'm planning for Camp NaNo and I've used some of the past questions to help me with character development. It's amazing how helpful it can be to interrogate your characters. XD
DeleteAh, I'm so glad I'm not the only one with difficult novels. -.- I've been struggling for one of my novels (you may know it as Avary's story) for about two years. I had planned to write that for Camp NaNo, but then another idea crept in and this second idea been coming much easier. I guess it's not time to write Avary's story, but still, I wish novel-plotting wasn't so hard. :P
Thanks for linking to us!
ReplyDeleteNot a problem! Thank you for submitting the questions!
Deletehello, lovely. just wanted to leave a comment and say I have fallen in complete and irrevocable love with you blog. that is all.
ReplyDeletesigned,
a fellow writer who also finds writing incredibly difficult,
shaynie
Aw, thank you, dear! This comment made my day. ♥ It's wonderful to meet you!
DeleteI'm so glad I'm not the only one who finds writing incredibly difficult. Novel-writing can be so amazingly tough, can't it? I've been discovering more and more that writing is not for the faint of heart, but I do believe it's worth it.