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note to self: i’ll be there for you, always

written june 6, 2021. Photo by Kristine Cinate on Unsplash I have always looked for myself in other people. I think the idea was that they would somehow hold the pieces of me that I felt were missing. That maybe, if I wrapped my identity up in theirs enough, we would somehow make a whole person. It's not healthy to live like this, but I did it anyway — burning through relationships and searching for something I couldn't quite name. It was never enough, not to be myself, but it was never enough to latch my identity to other people, either. I got close, several times — I thought I had reached the pinnacle of self discovery. I thought I had completed myself. But in the end, relying on other people to help build yourself is never a viable way to do things. It's only recently that I've started to become comfortable with the idea of being enough, as I am, on my own. Several years ago, in this same position, I would have searched for another person to attach my identity onto,

Keep Calm and Write the Thing (NaNoWriMo 2016)

Okay, guys. The NaNo panic is real. It's real for me because I have one of the most hectic schedules I've ever had in the history of ever, and I haven't had much time or brain power to plot as much as I would have liked. In just several hours, it'll be time to put the theoretical pen to paper and start writing a whole new novel from scratch. Since this is my eighth NaNo, after countless years of writing, you'd think that the panic would get easier each year, but it doesn't. I still feel as new, terrified, unsure, and absolutely unprepared as the first time.

But maybe that's the good part. At least this writing thing won't ever get old. It's an adventure each time.

If you're like me and totally panicking, here's your reminder that it's going to be okay. You have a story that needs to be told, and only you can tell it.  Your words don't have to be perfect. They just have to be out there. (This pep talk is uber-cliche, but it fits since my NaNo novel is also cliche.)

No matter what happens, you'll make it through November. No matter what your word count is, you'll make it through November. No matter what happens, NaNo won't kill you. No matter what happens, you will survive.

Me to NaNo 2016

And remember, if all else fails, channel your inner Ron Swanson.

We've got this, guys. LET'S DO THIS.


  1. YES. Thank you, Sky! I think these are words we all need to hear before the craziness ensues. NaNo won't kill us. We can do this!

    I hope your NaNo is amazing!!!

  2. Thanks, Sky! This was so inspiring, even if a little cliche, sometimes the cliche peptalks are exactly what we all need! This honestly has me even more excited to get back to writing. XD

    Good luck this month and I hope you have an amazing NaNo!


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