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note to self: i’ll be there for you, always

written june 6, 2021. Photo by Kristine Cinate on Unsplash I have always looked for myself in other people. I think the idea was that they would somehow hold the pieces of me that I felt were missing. That maybe, if I wrapped my identity up in theirs enough, we would somehow make a whole person. It's not healthy to live like this, but I did it anyway — burning through relationships and searching for something I couldn't quite name. It was never enough, not to be myself, but it was never enough to latch my identity to other people, either. I got close, several times — I thought I had reached the pinnacle of self discovery. I thought I had completed myself. But in the end, relying on other people to help build yourself is never a viable way to do things. It's only recently that I've started to become comfortable with the idea of being enough, as I am, on my own. Several years ago, in this same position, I would have searched for another person to attach my identity onto,

forget about logic

forget about logic.

when it comes to writing, don't analyze. don't try to write realistically, because fiction isn't reality. that's why it exists. writing was meant to be an escape, a book full of dreams in the form of black ink and paper. it was meant to be full of things that are almost impossible but not quite. because why else do we dream?

logic inhibits dreams. so why use logic in writing?

yes, there is a time for logic. but that time is the second draft.

until then, go crazy. write your heart out.

one of the things that i did while writing because i'm irish was this: i didn't research. even though i had no clue about ireland and guns, i winged it. if i didn't know something, i skipped it or i just wrote in my best guess. and to this day, i think that was crucial to its success and completion. i rarely finish books, and if i do it take ages. but with because i'm irish, i finished it in less than a year.

was it easy? no.
but it wasn't like slogging through acorn butter.
it was an escape.

i wrote because i'm irish for fun. i was going through a rough time last year in december and around that time i started my infamous novel about getting kidnapped by a boyband. i didn't intend to have a novel, really. i didn't intend it to be anything, really. but it was after that things started looking up. why? because i had something to focus on, something to fangirl over.

and when you're going through this hard thing called life, that means the world.

and someday, when your pages of ink-filled dreams are published, your books will be fangirled over. they will mean the world to someone else too, almost as much as they mean to you.

so don't think about it. don't analyze. just write it out. we were meant to write about the impossible, right?

so write.

dream as far as your mind can dream. write as far and as big and as wide as your mind can write. fill your paper with the breathings of your heart. your dreams. your impossibles. write everything you want your life to be.

please, forget about logic and write.

the world will thank you later.

with the rise of pinterest and tumblr, it's been hard to find the sources to images on the web. unfortunately, i could not find a source for the first picture. if it's yours, please let me know.
however, the second picture actually is an inkwell, which i thought was epic. you can buy it here.


  1. Just beautiful Sky. <3 I love the last bit.

  2. I swear our brains are the same sometimes. You're always putting my feelings into words.

    I feel this way EXACTLY. In fact, it's a very common thing for me to say I don't want realism in my fiction, because that's why I love fiction, I get enough reality in...reality. It IS an escape. You are absolutely right. One should just write to their heart's content. The revision process can take care of all the mistakes and holes.

    Thank you for this. Your words are always beautiful and encouraging. You keep writing too, girl, because you have such a talent.

  3. Thank you so much for this post. One of my biggest problems with writing is wanting to be logical. But you're right--I need to just write first, then worry about logic later.

    Thanks again!! I absolutely love your blog! :D

  4. I have so much trouble remembering to forget logic. I'm writing a war story at the moment--Gallipoli in World War I. I have barely researched a thing. I think that one could do for a bit more logic, but usually I'm trying to find a way to make my science fiction universe-thing perfectly plausible. Forget logic. Good advice. :)

  5. You just saved me from potential wails of anguish over my novel. Thank you. Everything about this post is simply magical and so true it is almost scary.

  6. That is a great way to approach things, Sky! I'm kind of taking this approach with my newest project. It has lots of stuff I don't know much about in it, but I'm just writing, and will worry about the technical stuff later. Thanks for this post. It's wonderful.


  7. *NOds emphatically* YES! Such a great way to look at writing...but also so very hard to believe in & actually carry out {at least for me.}
    Wanted to come by & tell you also I was hugely touched by finding your Spill the Beans blog, as a young person who lives with chronic pain in the form of a disability. Thank you for being bold enough to be transparent & up front about it.
    And I SO miss doing "Beautiful People"! I did it consistently for awhile...need to get back to it. :) Hope you have a great weekend.

  8. Yeah. This was exactly what I needed today.

    Love you, Sky. Thank you.


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